Have you been on the fence about doing a first look on your wedding day? A lot of couples have a hard time deciding whether or not to do a ‘First Look’. This is a decision you and your fiancé should make together. To assist with that I have done my best to answer the most frequently asked questions I get from couples.
What is a ‘First Look’?
A ‘First Look’ A First Look is when a bride and groom see each other before the wedding ceremony. This is done alone, away from your wedding party and family, and it is a moment shared by just the two of you.
What happens after we see each other?
After you have your private moment usually we do some Bride and Groom portraits. This is also a great time to do some, if not all, of the family portraits.
How much time should we set aside to a First Look?
This depends on if you want it to just be a few moments to see each other or do you want to do romantic portraits. A quick peek usually takes about 15-20 minutes. If you would like to add in portraits of the two of you alone, you should set aside 45 minutes or more.
What are some of the benefits of a First Look?
- TIME TOGETHER ALONE: It is an intimate way to share that first moment of the day together. It’s also possibly the only time you might get alone. With timelines to stick to and family and friends that all want your attention this is a priceless moment.
- MORE PHOTOS: More time together equals more photos together. Without the First Look most couples are left with the time after the ceremony prior to the reception. At most weddings this time is only about 30 to 45 minutes and you have the family formal portraits and wedding party portraits. After those are complete then it’s time for the romantic pictures but how much time is left? This also doesn’t account for unplanned delays, weather and other things that may have shortened your timeline.
- LESS STRESS: Getting the family formals out of the way prior to the ceremony means less running around before the reception trying to get a million things done.
- MORE TIME TO PARTY: The First Look also gives you both more party time at the reception and a chance to mingle with your family and guests longer.
- NERVES: What an amazing moment for the two of you to share without worrying about not tripping on your dress while walking down the aisle or being watched by 100+ guests. Instead when you make the walk down the aisle you are relaxed and confident and can focus on the loving person you are about to start your future with.
What about tradition?
This comes down to what you and your spouse-to-be want. Remember this is your wedding day and if the two of you want to break from tradition you can.
For me personally I wish I had done a First Look. I remember starting down the aisle and looking everywhere to see my husband’s expression when he first saw me. I missed it. The sea of faces and guests were everywhere and I couldn’t even find him until I was a few feet away. That moment is so fast and such a blur with emotion. I found out later that he had even got teary eyed and again I was so bummed that I missed it. I would have loved to share that moment alone with just us two.
Every couple is different and everyone’s wedding day is unique. A first look can be a great thing and I’ve had many brides tell me it was one of the best decisions they made for their wedding day. But no matter what you decide, the important thing is that you choose what is right for you as a couple.
Bye, Bye for now….